Thursday, May 31, 2012

The Reason


 “What does it mean when you clap?  Should I clap, too?”

“If you want to.  It’s just a way to worship along with the songs.”

He nodded, and proceeded to clap off-beat.  She smiled.

She hadn’t thought he was going to come.  Actually, when she’d asked, he told her that he wouldn’t be able to.  Her mission—to lead him to the Light—had been thrown off course.  But days later, in the middle of a bus ride, he called her name and said, “I can go.”

“You can go?”  She had nearly forgotten that she’d asked.

“I can go.  To church with you.  I have a test in Madrid, but afterward, I can meet you at Nuevos Ministerios, and we can go together.”

She was elated.  A toothy grin spread across her face. When the bus got to her stop, she got off, and, finding him peering at her through the window, she waved as the bus pulled away until he was out of sight.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

"What you tryna get up to?"

Sort of a weird question, right?  I thought so, too.  At first I thought he meant like, what degree am I going for this time around.  So, I started talking about the PhD and how long it would take when he interrupted me.

"No, no, I mean, look like you puttin' on a little weight."  My eyes widened.

"Oh, really?"  He nodded and smiled as only uber-observant old men smile.

"Yeah.  But it sets well on you."  Um, GROSS.  Nobody asked you.

Anyway, despite the creepiness of that exchange, I must admit that I have put on a few pounds. I've gained ten good pounds since I've moved to Georgia.  But I'm not freaking out about it or anything.  Before I moved, I was stressing non-stop, jumping around from job to job, eating sparingly and erratically.  I was a little underweight, honestly.  But now that I've settled down into a peaceful, normal routine, more or less, I guess I've not been as active and I eat more regularly.

It isn't really noticeable.  Unless you're looking really hard in places your eyes have no business looking (case in point, old dude mentioned above).  It's just that things that used to kind of hang on me now fit pretty well.  I don't have to buckle my belts as tightly and my dresses are now a little more filled out.  That's all.  It's comfortable.

But still, the fast metabolism I've inherited may be on its way to slowing down.  My days of eating whatever I want whenever I want may be winding down.  I've never been a work-out person.  I know, it's so horrible.  But I just never have.  I mean, the last physical fitness endeavor that I embarked upon was that tae kwon do class I took a couple of years ago.

But just because you aren't overweight doesn't mean you don't need to stay in shape.  Or exercise, or eat healthy or whatever.  It's just a matter of taking care of yourself.  So, when I get back to campus after my little break this week, I'm hitting that elliptical machine at the rec.  I mean, my student fees are paying for it anyway.  I might as well.

Friday, May 25, 2012

Psalm 37:4

Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you your heart's desires. (Psalm 37:4, NLT)

A lot of people (myself included) usually take this verse to mean God will grant you your desires if you "take delight" in Him.

Not that there's anything wrong with that, necessarily, provided that your desire isn't something immoral or against God's nature or whatever.

But what if it meant something else?  Something a little less having to do with purely what we want?  What if instead of interpreting "he will give you your heart's desires" as "He will give me what I desire," what if it meant, "He will place in my heart those desires that line up with His will for my life"? 

This is not to say that our desires and the desires that line up with His will are mutually exclusive.  I get very annoyed with people who espouse that they are mutually exclusive by definition because it's just unbiblical.  I'm just wondering if my prayer should be, instead of "God, please grant me my desires," "God, please let what I desire be what You desire, and let what You desire be what I desire."

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Alabama Boy


“So, do you want to meet there?”

“No, no.  I’ll come pick you up.”

Great, she thought.  This can’t be a date.

Because it was just too weird.  They were totally just friends.  Really.  But there was a niggling sense that something was different about this night.  Other times, they’d just met at Los Amigos and ate undainty burritos or went to Quizno’s because he had a hankering for a sub. But this time he wanted to pick her up.  And take her to Cock of the Walk.  In his truck.

Admittedly, it was a nice truck.  Not the kind of truck an old money Southern gentleman like him would ever go mud riding in.  But her?  In a truck?  With a blue-eyed Alabama boy?  No.  Just . . . no.  His accent was corn bread and molasses.  Butter biscuits and sausage gravy.  Hot cheese grits at 6 a.m. since there was work to do, and it’s best to get an early start before the heat hits, because a man’s gotta work.

The truck and the accent weren’t all.  She was uncomfortably older than him.  She was also nearly taller than him, and she would not consider herself a Southern belle, the only type of girl she felt could appropriately match his good ol’ boy charm.   No, ma’am.  Southern belles are porcelain, pampered, rosy-cheeked, drawling darlings.  She was an anti-Southern belle.  She spoke with an accentless crispness.  She was caramel and never sunburned.  She took care of herself and didn’t expect anything from anyone.  She was a citizen of the world, dropped into the syrupy South by chance.

They were thrown together by chance.  Lone students in the same fledgling church.  His idealistic, youthful zeal drove them to start a Bible study with an outreach bent, but in the end, it was just the two of them drinking lattes at Panera Bread, her wondering where this was leading, him apologizing for showing up in a dirt smudged t-shirt smelling like sweat and cut grass because he didn’t have enough time to go home and shower after he’d finished up with his side job.  Daddy took care of things, but still insisted sonny have a work ethic sweat into him.

He called to talk because she was "easy to talk to."  She got him hooked on Don Miller.  He ate her poorly executed squash casserole.  They went to WalMart and laughed at the names of the different varieties of Axe hair gel until they cried.  His out-of-town girlfriend got wind of one of their burrito outings and posted a thinly veiled threat on her Facebook wall.  She told him.  He rolled his eyes and shook his head in disbelief.  She backed away.  Besides, they were just friends.  She wasn’t trying to cause any drama.

But after Christmas break, he called and suggested dinner.  She reminded him of the girlfriend drama.  “We broke up,” he countered.  “It should have happened a long time ago.”  Oh.

So, here she was, climbing into his gas guzzling landmass of a truck.  Afraid to even consider defining what this was.  To wave off the uncertainty that clutched them both, she started making fun of his accent.  Ah don’t sownd lahk thayt.  But you do, buddy.  You do.

Sunday, May 20, 2012

Post-Sunday Morning Reflections: Freedom Edition

Here's my newest little revelation, compliments of this morning's message:

In Revelation, Heaven is described as having dimensions.  (Whether or not these dimensions are literal is another discussion for another day.) In other words, whatever space it takes up has limits.  Maybe a better way to express this is that in the description of it (whatever camp you fall into), its nature has delineations.

In addition, in the Old Testament, things that were put to holy or salvific use had to be constructed according to very detailed specifications. (Noah's ark, The Tabernacle, etc.)

However, Hell is described as being limitless, dimensionless.  It's described as being enlarged and without measure, and it's repeatedly described as an abyss (or "bottomless pit" in the KJV).

I started thinking about freedom.  In a spiritual sense.  Is true freedom being in a limitless space or situation?

Then I started thinking about Genesis.  Genesis describes a God who takes a formless void and begins organizing it.  He separates light from darkness.  He distinguishes the sky from the waters.  There's this chaotic, scattered situation of a cosmos, and then He starts putting things in a certain order.  It's like things were just all over the place, formless, and functionless, and then He started arranging things to function within specific constraints.

Is it freedom to exercise our own wills or is it freedom from chaos?  What I mean is, we have freedom to exercise our own wills, regardless.  I believe that humans do have free will.  But is the power to exercise that will the way we see fit really freedom?  I think I realize more clearly how allowing ourselves to fall within certain constraints to be free from the Hell of abyss, of the void that is the World, is the freedom that submitting to God gives us.

Friday, May 18, 2012

I'd . . .

1. probably still get a tall even though my Jittery Joe's card has 10 stamps and I can get can any drink, any size I want for free.

2. prefer to do my own work.  I'm not a big group project person.

3. give you a second chance if you swallowed your pride and asked nicely.

4. never do any of the things my little brother says he would do for a million dollars.

5. eat pizza every day if I had to choose to eat one thing for the rest of my life.

6. like to learn Portuguese (and maybe go to Brazil . . . fingers crossed!) and then learn to ride a motorcycle.

7. buy that vintage Talk n' Play off of eBay just so that my future kids could also have the experience of gleefully pressing the red button despite Grover pleading with them not to.

8. have difficulty telling someone they had something stuck between their teeth or up their nose or on their face right away.

9. laugh at a corny joke.

10. appreciate it if someone told me the truth, even if it hurt to hear it.

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Around the Bend

I woke up this morning with these words and as soon as I got a hold of my guitar, the melody flowed.  I'm not quite pleased with my ability to play it yet, so I'll just share the words for now.  I like the song, but for some reason, after it was all said and done, I realized that it's a country song.  Ugh, I don't even listen to country. It's definitely not my favorite genre.  I guess that's what living in the South will do to you.  The countryness just permeates your psyche and you don't even realize it.  Anyway, here are the lyrics. (And yes, I know they aren't grammatically correct.)

Around the Bend

Chorus:
You been waiting
You been hoping
You been seeking
You been praying
You been won'dring
Will this between time ever end?
But you never know what's around the bend!

Verse:
Woke up this morning
With a song on my heart
Woke up this morning
With my day about to start
Wrote out my list
To check off my to-do's
Yeah, I might have my plans
But Jesus has His, too . . .

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Ye Have Not Because Ye Ask Not

So, my flat tire debacle had a somewhat happy ending.

Turns out that the tires were still under warranty (i.e. The tire that shredded to bits was not technically "too old"), so any balancing/rotating I needed was free of charge.

But, since the tire that I bought from WalMart wasn't one of their tires ("their" being the folks who put on my still under warranty tires) they couldn't refund me for it or give me a rebate or whatever.  However . . .

"Well, since the tires were still under warranty and I had to buy a new one out of pocket, and I understand that there's nothing you can do about that since it wasn't one of yours, what if there was another service that I needed done . . . such as an oil change or something like that?"

"Yeah, we could take care of that for you.  You want us to do that for you right now?"

"Yes, please."  Free of charge.

Confession: Defriendment

I defriended someone on Facebook.

It was semi-retaliative, semi-preventative.

I must admit that I do feel a twinge of guilt about it.  See, what had happen was . . .

I posted pics of my 30th bday party on FB.  So, if you're my FB friend, then not only do you know that I turned 30, you know what I did to celebrate such an event.  (Which, by the way, was a very impromptu dinner with my mom and a few friends.) A particular person who is not exactly my peer and who I only accepted as a friend because we are in the same circle of acquaintances made some very irritating comments to me under the guise of wishing me a happy birthday when he/she saw me later on that weekend.

Perhaps I should note that this person has a history of making irritating/off-color remarks and posing none-of-your-business questions in general.  Not just to me.

Even though my response to his/her comments should have been enough to let any person who is somewhat adept at reading social cues know that I was not cool with what was said, part of me felt like I needed to let him/her know that I wasn't cool with what was said.  I had two options: 1. Say it to his/her face or 2. Be passive-aggressive.  I chose option 2.

It was so much easier than having an uncomfortable verbal confrontation.  Go to FB, go to your friend list, find the person, hit "unfriend."  Done.  Message communicated.  And, as I stated earlier, it wasn't purely retaliative. It was also preventative.  I reasoned that if I had never been FB friends with him/her in the first place, he/she would never have had the opportunity to be in my business enough to know that it was my 30th birthday, etc., and therefore he/she would never have made the comments he/she made.  Once he/she took the liberty to print out a picture of me taken while I was abroad to give to my mom.  It was a nice picture, and it was a nice gesture, but it was also borderline creepy.  Maybe that should have been my cue back then to at least put on some privacy blocks.  But because I chose to be passive aggressive, it came to all-out defriendment. He/She needed to know that you can't just say crazy stuff to people and it be fine.  So there.  You're not my friend anymore.

But how childish does that sound?  It's literally the cyber-equivalent of a kid who doesn't want to play with another kid anymore.  "You're not my friend."  Part of me feels badly because in retrospect, maybe option 2 was not the most mature one, and I'm pretty sure that I hurt his/her feelings.

But what can I do now?  Try to re-friend him/her?  Awkward.  And besides, I don't necessarily want this person to have access to my stuff anyway.  I know it's not a big deal in the big scheme of things.  He/She will get over it.  But I have this niggling sense of guilt, and I'm wondering if I need to just woman up and talk to him/her about it the next time I see him/her.

Monday, May 14, 2012

Adventures in Channyland: Flat Tire Edition

So, on my way to spend the weekend with my fam for Mother's Day, I got my first flat tire.

I was riding along and I suddenly heard a sound like a motorcycle and said out loud, "Is that my car?" No sooner did I say that than I smelled rubber burning and saw smoke.  Oh, Lord.  I pulled over to the side of the road.  I knew it before I got out.  I had a flat tire.  When I got out and took a look, my right passenger's side tire was totally in shreds.  Like, the tire had just gotten worn out and shredded completely apart.  Yikes.  Was it because I hadn't gotten my tires rotated in a while?  I sighed, and slumped back in my car.  I hate when car stuff happens to me because I don't know anything about cars.

I became one of those people on the side of the road.  Feeling the wind and hearing the whoosh of the cars passing me by on the interstate was my only company.  Of course, I called roadside assistance, and of course, a corpulent, tatted up tow-truck driver came out and put on my spare for me.

My only recourse, he told me, was to get off on the next exit, go to WalMart, and get a new tire put on.  "Cuz you ain't gonna make it to Montgomery on that spare."  Thank God I wasn't in the backwoods of Podunkville. Wally World to the rescue.  I even knew exactly where the WalMart was because I was right outside of Auburn.  My old stomping grounds.

Another reason I despise car issues is because in order to get the issue remedied, I'm usually forced to be in a situation where, again, I don't know anything, and where I'm also in the company of uncouth men ogling me and making lame attempts to hit on me.  Does it really take three of you hanging around my car to figure out what kind of tire I need?  Is it necessary to suggest that a technician just wants to see my license to make sure I was "legal"?  Out of my element, at the mercy of ribald tire fitters.  Praise the Lord for credit cards.

Back on the road, my trip delayed by a couple of hours, soothed by the sounds of static-y NPR.  Yep, CD player on the fritz again. And the rain.  Instead of added gloom, I chose to view it as a free car wash from God.

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Intersession

That's what this little in-between time is called.  It's those few weeks after the Spring semester is over, but before the Summer session officially begins.

The end of this semester kind of dragged.  I don't know why.  It seemed like last semester, at a certain point, I sprang into action like an industrious bee and knocked out 3 papers, pretty much back to back.  This time, though I still got it done, my productivity came in spurts.  There were a few money time, in-the-zone moments, but it seemed like last semester, those moments were sort of concentrated whereas this time they were kind of scattered.  Alas.  You want to know what I wrote about?  I'm glad you asked.

1. The Invention of the New World - I wrote about a slave revolt and an indigenous uprising in colonial Venezuela.  Pretty serious stuff.  This is the first time I used hard core theory.  Foucault, Derrida, Bahktin, Bhaba.  Wordy, abstruse guys that make you think you're being deep.

2. Performing Latinidad - I wrote about the African-American/Latino alliances during the youth counterculture movement of the Zoot Suiters in the 40s and the contemporary hip hop movement focusing on a shift in the 90s.  I never thought I'd ever be writing about gangsta rap in Spanish.  But here we are.

3. Citizenship and the Nation - I compared the roles of two female protagonists in two contemporary Afro-Hispanic novels, one Peruvian and one Cuban, and how the authors used these women's experiences as a counter-discourse that challenges the official version of the histories of those nations.

When I sit back and think about the work that I did, I can't believe that I did it. When you're in the thick of it, you don't think about the finished product.  You just think about slogging through it.  But when you come out on the the other side, it is a rewarding feeling.  It's just hard to grasp that feeling, to remind yourself of it.

The very few times I've run for student council or class president or whatever (and I'm talking elementary school, because I never dared in middle or high school) I never won.  But I won my first election this year as the 2012-2013 Graduate Student Representative for the Spanish program.  My fellow Americans . . . lol.

This summer is going to be the last relatively chill summer I'm probably going to have for a while.  The assistantship that I won covers my first summer.  I'm still doing research with my major professor, but I don't have to teach or take any classes.  I'm just signed up for research hours.  I still have lots to work to do, but I can work at my own pace and I have the flexibility to take time off, which is really nice, so I'm very thankful.

What do I have lined up?  A road trip or two.  A plane ride across the country to finally see my little nephew.  I might try to submit something for publication.  Not that I think it's going to get published, necessarily, but I think it'll be good for me to get my feet wet in the whole publishing process.

This Friday, I have my first guitar recital.  It's just funny to say that because the last time I was involved in a recital of any sort was when I was in high school taking the piano.  I feel like a kid again, back in talent showcase mode.  Be proud of me, everybody!  Look what I can do! Instead of mom and dad in the audience, it'll be a few friends. I guess that's what's changed.  At this point in my life, I'm learning what it means to forge a family when you're a little far from your own.

Here's a random, hopeful fact: One of my birthday balloons still has helium in it and hasn't even begun to sink.

Here's a random item on my to-do list: Plant my sunflower seeds.  This time, they're petite, vine-y sunflowers, not those mammoth gargantuan ones I planted last year.  We'll see how they turn out.

Thursday, May 03, 2012

By the way . . .

My friend who has a tiny baby in her stomach found out that she actually has TWO tiny babies in there! Twinsies!