I mean, I know I have my little insecurity demons that I wrestle with, but I've learned (finally) not to let it control my actions. I realize how unattractive it is. I don't want a man who needs constant prodding, who always second guesses himself, who is immobilized by his lack of self-confidence. I don't want that kind of person, and I realize even more that I can't allow myself to be that kind of person.
I also don't want a dude who takes me for granted / needs constant convincing.
If you don't recognize the value of who I am, what I bring to the table, the richness and variety of my experiences and gifts, my attractiveness as a whole person; if you can't see that, then don't waste my time. I would hate to be in a position where I would have to continually prove to someone that they made the right choice. I realize that a relationship is work. I realize that there will never be a time when either one can just kick back and not put any effort into maintaining the relationship. But what I mean is that I want to be sure of my partner's esteem of me. I want to be cherished and valued, not made to prove my worth.
I most certainly don't want a dude who is negative.
Negative people really are the worst. They're energy sappers. Their vision is as broad as a pinhole. I wouldn't be able to deal with that day in and day out. I'm not saying the guy has to hop out of bed every morning whistling and skipping (that would be annoying), but I'm saying that I wouldn't be able to stand him if he had a negative mindset.
Just a few midnight musings . . .
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