So Cute

Ahem.

I used to rant back in the day when people tried to set me up with some black dude due to the simple fact that he was a black dude.  And church people were the worst, ugh!  Like, black dude, wears pants, has the Holy Ghost, there's your soulmate, let's go.  Uh, naa.

Don't get it twisted, tho.  The desire of my little 18-year-old heart back in the day was a Holy Ghost-filled black dude.  Dark chocolate brotha, too.  He took me out for my 18th birthday, he accompanied me to my senior prom...(sigh)...but that was back in the day.

Other brothas have made appearances here and there in subsequent years, but fast forward to now. The one who liked it enough to put a ring on it is the opposite of a dark chocolate brotha.  In fact, I was told (by loving members of his family) that he consistently wins the "whitest feet" contest every year at the beach.  My poor man stays spraying on 100 SPF when out in the sun so he doesn't end up a baked lobster.  I chalk it up to ye olde Irishman in 'im.

Anyway, my rant has transformed from "stop assuming me and some random black dude would be magically compatible soulmates" to "stop squealing about how 'cute' me and my white fiancé are when you see us together."

Omigawd, y'all are SO CUTE!  

Really?

I know people mean well, honestly.  I mean, I'd rather somebody think we're "cute" than make other assumptions. For real.  But, still, can we cut it with the "cute"?

I get it.  You're expressing your approval.  You want us to know that you're not one of the ones who thinks we should "stick to our own kind."  Got it.  Thanks.  I guess.

What I'm saying is when you emphasize how "cute" we are, especially when you most likely don't say that about other couples you're in contact with, what you're doing, even though it's in a "positive" way, is emphasizing our difference. In a way, you're marking us as something foreign, exotic and other, albeit "cute."  Do you see what I'm saying?

There's a difference between a normal compliment and an overexaggerated, oft-repeated panegyric.  The latter is what I'm ranting against.

Calm down.  We're not wide-eyed extraterrestrials with glowing fingertips.  We're just a girl and a guy in love.